What’s Really Causing Your Anxiety & How Hypnotherapy Can Solve It

Anxiety has a habit of engulfing us. Unlike the nagging pain of a headache or cut, anxiety paralyzes us to our very core. Naturally, we want rid of it. Whatever stops you from performing daily tasks or being your authentic self should be thrown off.

Unfortunately, anxiety likes to hang around. It sticks to us and prefers to snowball. When we’re worried, we isolate. And when we isolate, our thoughts get to us. We begin to stress, lose confidence, and before we know it – there’s a panic attack on the way.

If this resonates with you, know that you’re not alone.

Anxiety on a global scale

5% of the U.K. population are believed to suffer from Generalised Anxiety Disorder (GAD) at any one time. That’s about 3.3 million people. Even more, striking yet is that it’s believed  275 million people worldwide are struggling with the same affliction.

Why is anxiety so prevalent?

Among them, there are certainly varying reasons why they feel this way. It all ties back to one simple fact: our brains are naturally wired to be anxious.

Perhaps we’re not alone in the wild like our ancestors were, but our brains haven’t gotten the memo yet.

According to your brain, a threat is a threat. At the most basic and rudimentary level, it doesn’t know the difference between a job interview and a ready-to-pounce lion.

So, while you’re tucked away in your office panicking, your mid-brain is somewhere in mid-Africa circa 50,000 B.C. The same neural pathways that fire under attack during a hunt also fire under stress from a business meeting.

In one case, you’re trying to save your job; in the other, your life. So, this is pretty serious stuff. Plus, we’re living more fast-paced and connected lives than ever, both catalysts for an overwhelmed mind.

How anxiety can manifest

Your  fight or flight response is continuously stimulated, leading to fatigue, chronic stress, psychosomatic ailments (aches & pains,) and several anxiety disorders. Panic disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, social phobia, and obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), just to name a few.

The hormones and neural pathways that cause anxiety

This is all down to two pesky hormones: Adrenaline and Cortisol. Yes, that’s right. Whether you can pinpoint the cause of your anxiety or have a list as long as your arm of reasons – it’s still all down to two chemicals. Neurotransmitters, to be exact.

Progesterone has even been put forward as a potential causative hormone as it’s been shown to enhance amygdala activity – the part of your brain where your moods are regulated.

As you probably know, adrenaline kicks in under mild-to-extreme circumstances. Whether you’re jumping out of a plane or took a tumble on the sidewalk, this hormone is instantly emitted from the adrenal glands just above your kidneys.

From here, it gets to work raising your blood pressure, increasing your heart rate, expanding your pupils, altering the body’s metabolism, and even expanding your airways. Sound familiar? Of course, some of those are the direct causes of the common anxiety symptoms. Out-of-control beating heart, nausea, extreme alertness, shortness of breath – it’s all explained by a simple hormone.

Produced alongside adrenaline in the adrenal glands is cortisol. A steroid hormone that essentially amplifies all of adrenaline’s anxiety-inducing work. However, cortisol is also known as the primary stress hormone.

Why does this happen?

But if you’re in the midst of a panic attack, you’re not worrying about what’s flowing about your body; you might, on the other hand, be wondering what caused it.

The neurological missteps behind anxiety

As mentioned before, anxiety comes from the primary emotional centres of your brain contained within the limbic system. The limbic system is incapable of independent thought. It directly reacts to any signals it receives from the mind or body.

This tiny system is found in your brain stem and is usually tightly connected with the prefrontal cortex – the part of your brain that can reason.

In numerous studies, neurologists have noted that the link between the limbic system and the prefrontal cortex appears to be weakened in patients with anxiety.

This suggests that any perceived-threat or stressor will be processed solely by the limbic system, which will alert the adrenal glands to start firing adrenaline and cortisol.

Whereas, had the information been sufficiently passed between the limbic system and the prefrontal cortex – the stressor could have been calmed with a rational and logical response.

Anxiety can be overcome in many ways

While this may seem like all hope is lost, the opposite is the case. The brain is notorious for its plasticity. If a natural pathway or connection is weakened, it can easily be reinforced and strengthened over time.

While many coping mechanisms such as exercise, eating healthy, and keeping to a routine are great for boosting confidence and keeping you busy, what they’re really doing is keeping your mindset healthy. And when we’re thinking positively, our brain follows suit!

However, i’s believed to take between 18 and 254 days for a habit to form  and around 66 days for a new behaviour to become automatic. It’s within these periods that some people revert back to anxiety-inducing habits and our old thinking patterns – just what we don’t want.

However,  research has shown that setting time-based goals can increase motivation, self-confidence, and chances of eventual success. So, it’s believed that having a timeframe in mind before achieving significant mental changes can be helpful to those struggling with anxiety.

Either way, it’s essential that the thoughts and behaviours causing the body to have anxious reactions be changed for the better. Through this, the neural pathways can be remedied and corrected over time.

However, some people simply do not have the time to make significant changes to their lifestyle or mindset. Moreover, the triggering factor for anxiety is often deep-set, often developing in childhood or teenage years.

While the general mechanism and patterns for anxiety remain the same in these people, they may just need a little extra help. For this group, more extensive treatments such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Behavioural Therapy, and certain medication can be of help.

Could hypnotherapy be the answer to your anxiety and stress?

However, a lesser-known and often less invasive form of combatting chronic anxiety is hypnotherapy. Long known for its ability to reach into the depth of our minds and subconsciously rearrange our thinking patterns, it’s clear to see how hypnotherapy can benefit chronic anxiety sufferers. Research  has even proven its efficacy, showing it to be equal in therapeutic abilities to CBT, if not more effective.

By tapping into your mind and subconsciously gradually rewiring your brain through positive mantras, hypnotherapy can reduce instances of stress and panic attacks. Moreover, you’ll receive the confidence boost that comes naturally with feeling in control of your thoughts again.

So, why not release control of your thoughts for just one moment to claim them back forever? By booking  an appointment with a professional hypnotherapist, you stand to release tension and pain while breaking down mental blocks with ease. The natural result of this is a boost in self-esteem, peace-of-mind, and a steady foundation of confidence.

Hypnotherapy is gentle on the mind while getting to work deep within your brain. Everyone’s anxiety and stress has a different solution, perhaps hypnotherapy is the one for you.









Free webinar – For parents of Teenagers

Home-schooling and teenage stress

When: Tuesday 12th May 2020 at 8pm – 9pm

Cost: FREE

For: Parents of teenagers


Many parents are finding the stresses of home-schooling challenging. They are finding it impossible to motivate and stimulate their teenagers. On top of that, the anxieties of young people are heightened, they exist in their primitive minds. They are more likely to be accessing their flight, fight and freeze responses. Understanding a little of how the brain operates and how best to motivate them could turn things around.


I am a qualified hypnotherapist with over 2000 hours of experience helping people manage stress. I have clinics in both Crawley and London (at least, I usually do). I have also had over a decade’s worth of educational experience, having been a teacher of Media Studies, a department lead and a Head of Year.


I have created this webinar to help support parents trying to juggle the above goals. Completely free and hopefully an opportunity to build a little community.


In this webinar, I will be discussing:


  • How the brain works and how to get teenagers into their intellectual minds (increasing motivation and positivity, decreasing stress and anxiety).
  • How schools will cope with managing the catch-up post lockdown.
  •  The shared ideas of participants

If you would like to take part, please email me at info@paulmilhamhypnotherapy.co.uk or use the ‘Contact Me’ form and I will send you a zoom invite.

Little known facts about weight loss

ThinWe are all very familiar with the traditional methods and theories around weight loss – eat healthy, five portions of fruit and veg a day, cook using low-fat processes, keep portion sizes to tennis ball size, exercise for 20 minutes each day… the list goes on and on. There are countless weight loss programmes that assist in this and the Leisure Database Industry estimate that the UK weight loss and fitness industry is worth £4.3 billion.

But buried in the ever-developing and cutting edge neuroscience are new and exciting revelations that explore how shifts in our habits can result in dramatic changes in our weight loss and body shape. This is the science that hypnotherapists master because, outside of healthy eating and exercise, our minds can create the perfect environment to kick-start and maintain weight loss.

How stress can create body fat

In the book ‘Spark: How exercise will improve the performance of your brain’, Dr John J. Ratey and Eric Hagerman discuss the wide ranging effect that chronic stress can have on your body including its relationship to weight gain. In times of stress, the brain will attempt to fuel the muscles in order to ensure their rapid response (run away, fight etc). The hormone cortisol (the stress hormone) is released which signals for the liver to make more glucose to power those batteries whilst blocking insulin receptors at non-essential tissues and organs – this ensures that fuel flows only to the areas important to flight or fight. This is a good response in times of tension, however, when we have chronic stress for long periods of times, the action of this cortisol creates a surplus fuel supply around the stomach in the form of belly fat.

This is one of the reasons hypnosis can be so beneficial to weight loss as the REM replicating hypnotic trance state created in a hypnotherapy session has been proven to process stress, reduce anxiety and, therefore, create conditions more conducive to weight loss.

Sleep better, eat better

Over the last 30 years, Dr Eve Van Cauter at the University of Chicago has conducted many studies which attempt to explore the relationship between sleep deprivation and weight gain. These studies have been outlined in the book ‘Why we sleep’ by Matthew Walker. Participants in one of these studies were split into two groups with each group being monitored over a period of four days. One group were allowed to sleep for 8.5 hours (the recommended amount) and the other for only 4.5 (considered very sleep deprived). Every day, the participants were given free access to food and were measured on the type and quantity of food that they ate.

Van Cauter discovered that that those with short sleep consistently ate 300 calories more per day than those on 8.5 hours sleep. Over time, this would equate to 70,000 extra calories or an extra 10 – 15 pounds of weight gain per year.

Van Cauter also discovered that the processing of leptin and ghrelin (the hormones responsible for feelings of fullness and hunger respectively) were significantly hindered by shorter sleep patterns

Hypnotherapy encourages longer periods of unbroken sleep as it empties the stress bucket usually responsible for waking us up. Therefore the weight control benefits of better sleep patterns can be greatly enhanced by the work conducted by hypnotherapists.

Your home temperature and weight

One of the surprising links between obesity and the environment is the temperature of our homes. It stands to reason. One of the biggest consumers of energy in our bodies is body temperature regulation. This can be higher than the fuel needed to exercise or consume food. In the modern age, with sophisticated heating systems, our bodies don’t need to burn as much fuel in order to maintain optimum body temperature. Therefore this fuel is stored as fat. One Japanese study found that people experienced a drop in body fat after spending two hours a day for six weeks at a temperature of about 63 degrees Fahrenheit. So if you want to lose weight, turn down that thermostat.

Or alternatively, you could book in some time with a hypnotherapist! Click here to book a free initial consultation.

The myths around Hypnotherapy

Hypnotherapy can be a very effective way to deal with a number of concerns. Whether you are looking to manage feelings of anxiety, anger or depression or have a habit, obsession or addiction as a result, hypnotherapy can be a very positive and powerful way of moving forward. Some people look to hypnotherapy to increase performance at work or in sport. Some people use it to manage nerves before an exam or performance. Hypnotherapy can be a rapid method of stopping smoking.

However, a lot of people may not consider hypnotherapy as a viable treatment because of the myths that surround it. In is inevitable that such an enigmatic intervention could be viewed in such a sceptical way so, in this blog, I will explain away so of the misconceptions, mysteries and concerns that seem to surround this form of therapy. *


It isn’t really real, is it? How could a hypnotist get people to do all of that crazy stuff? Is that what will happen in the therapy room?

From the beginning of the stage presentation, the stage hypnotist will use certain tests to pick subjects that are going to be the most impressive subjects to hypnotise. These people are generally those who don’t need much of a reason to partake and perform. Hypnosis is good for lowering inhibition… Alcohol does this as well. These outgoing subjects are most likely to go along with the hypnotist’s suggestions. They are happy to perform. It is, therefore, likely, that someone who is naturally more reserved, would be less inclined to accept the hypnotist’s suggestions in a trance like state.

Generally, in clinical hypnotherapy, the clients are open to suggestions about change (i.e. feeling more confident, motivated, rejecting phobias etc) as this is the reason why they have come. The sample is self-selective. They have not come to perform or ‘dance like a chicken’ so that is really not possible in a clinical setting. A hypnotherapist cannot make you do anything against your moral code or that you are opposed to.


I have heard that not everyone can be hypnotised so it may not work for me.

Hypnotherapy induces a state similar to REM sleep. Since everyone sleeps, everyone can generally enter this state quite easily. Deeper trance states can be more hit and miss but these states are not used nor needed in therapeutic hypnotherapy.


I have never been hypnotised before. I don’t know what to expect

Most of us enter a hypnotic trance regularly, in fact, several times during a day. It is unlikely that when you drove to the shops you remember or even focused on every turn and traffic signal. This is because you were on autopilot or, indeed, trance. Trance feels similar to an intense daydream but it is different for everyone.


Can a hypnotist retrieve memories?

Not at all. Hypnotherapy will fire up the imagination using relaxation and suggestibility. Any experience recalled through this is likely to be less reliable than fully conscious memory.


What does hypnotherapy feel like?

Hypnosis is a highly subjective experience. Generally speaking the ideal state to work with a client within the middle ground between awake and asleep although, in reality, clients drift  round from one to another in one session. It has a lot in common with REM (Rapid Eye Movement) which is one of the initial stages of sleep and feels like a state of intense focus and imagination (a dream of daydream). A lot of clients have an expectation that they will be in a mesmerised state which will take them to another dimension. The reality is that clients are generally much more ‘in the room’ than that. The most frequent description is that clients feel awake, conscious but in a state of deep relaxation where they don’t want to move and can let their imagination take the lead.


I am too mentally strong to be hypnotised

Some people will describe all hypnosis as self-hypnosis and therefore about the focus of the client not the mental weakness. Sports people will often use hypnosis techniques to increase performance which would suggest an association with mental strength not weakness. This myth seems to be a hangover from the days when hypnosis was seen to be about the strength and wizardry of the hypnotist when, in fact, they are just ‘read the map’ whilst the subject ‘drives the car’.  


Am I under the control of the hypnotist?

Absolutely not. You always have full control or your body and your mind. As you are in a state on semi-consciousness you always have the final say. In fact, your focus is more intense as you lose more control of your automatic reactions (flight or fight) so that you intellectual mind can take over.   


*Disclaimer: Please be advised that there is no guarantee of specific results and that results can vary from person to person

Why Hypnotherapy is becoming so popular?

When we think of hypnotism, a lot of people will conjure up the image of the mysterious, suited magician who casts a spell over his victims making them chow down on an onion like it was an apple or dance like a chicken. People define themselves as either a ‘believer’ or a ‘non-believer’ as if this phenomenon was a Bigfoot or a Loch Ness monster.

Actually, the routes of hypnotism lie in science, not in magic. The hypnotist just plays on some of the quirky wiring of our brains to create a trance like state of suggestibility. It sometimes seems as if it is magic but this really isn’t the case.

Hypnotherapy Crawley
Hypnotherapy Crawley

But did you know that hypnotherapy uses this phenomenon in an equally powerful way? People have reported stopping smoking without any craving or pain, they had ridded themselves of crippling phobias and achieved life changing levels of self-confidence and self-belief. Results are generally pretty quick also. This is because one of the first things that hypnotherapy looks at is sleep. In my clinic I have seen people go from 2 hours sleep a night to 7 hours in just two weeks. Sleep is our body’s big regulator and, when this improves, the impact on our lives can be unbelievable.

But what it isn’t is mind control. A hypnotherapist cannot change you unless you want to change and the results are highest when the client has a belief that this will work for them. This is why the free initial consultation that I do is so important. It demystifies the process and lets the client know exactly how and why hypnotherapy works.

Some of the changes that I have seen in my clinic have been incredible and I have the best job in the world to help bring about these changes. The solution focused approach also adds a further dynamic. We don’t focus on problems but solutions. You don’t come to my clinic to discuss what is making you sad! My job is to focus on what makes you happy. A lot of people are private, they don’t want to discuss the problems of the past. Anything with the word ‘therapy’ in it seems threatening and intrusive. Solution focused hypnotherapy, therefore, is a blessed relief – happy, positive, fun and forward looking.

So if you have anxiety, depression, anger, sleep issues, phobias or any related concerns, join the thousands of people finding this quick, efficient and relaxing therapy to be the best way forward.

What to Measure to help manage depression and anxiety

If you are an entrepreneur you measure your success on your financial wealth… If you are a model you measure yourself on your looks… A manager would measure themselves through profit.

But does any of this make us happy? If you want balance, contentment and a sustainable measure of your life’s worth here are the important scales to consider.

How confident are you? When we are confident about the decisions we make then we have no need to be anxious about the outcome. When we are not anxious about the outcome we avoid stress and worry which will keep us mentally strong and focused.

Humans are sociable creatures and are designed on every level, spiritually, emotionally and physically, to thrive on successfully communicating with others. When we connect with others our lives have purpose because very few people can be truly happy on their own.

When we exercise we produce serotonin, our body’s natural happy juice. If we are more active, the more of this happy inducing chemical we disperse meaning we have more energy, more vitality and more positivity to give to life.

If we measure the positivity of our thoughts then we effectively measure the resilience of our brains and our ability to stay in the intellectual sections. As our brains are neuroplastic, the more time we spend thinking positively, the bigger those positive resources become.

Strengths are the positive features of your personality, your skills… the resources you bring to the table. These are what make you unique and of far greater importance to measure than are ability to generate material wealth

Achievement is a relative term. If we measure achievement against a Nobel prize winner we may run up short. We should measure our achievement based upon where we start and where we finish.

Isn’t this the end goal for us all? We communicate to be happy, make money to be happy, form relationships to be happy… If all of our daily tasks are undertaken with the end game of fulfilment and happiness, then isn’t this the greatest measure of all?

To book a free hypnotherapy initial consultation in click here

10 Amazing reasons why Solution Focused Hypnotherapy can help with Anxiety.

hypnotherapyIf you are suffering from anxiety, stress or depression, the range of therapeutic interventions can be quite mindboggling. From CBT to counselling to Mindfulness, the therapy world is strewn with a myriad of different options.

Many people choose hypnotherapy because it has stood the test of time and that decades of success can vouch for its effectiveness. Now, however, the world of hypnotherapy is splintering even more and one options is a fairly new but highly effective hypnotherapy that is gaining traction. The results that solution focused hypnotherapy are achieving are staggering and here are ten reasons why…

It focuses on the future, not the past

Many people come to a therapist wanting to change their future and not dwell on the reasons why they became anxious in the first place. In fact, Solution Focused Therapists believe that a constant focus on the problem actually reinforces the anxiety that you are trying to banish. A Solution Focused Hypnotherapist doesn’t look at where you are now and how you got there… Instead we look at where you are now and where you want to get to… In this way it is a 100% positive, solution focused and stress free experience.

It measure results

Solution Focused Hypnotherapy is one of the few therapies that is daring to measure results on a uniquely developed system. Individual therapists will do this every time they see you so we can collectively average the results we get as a group of therapists nationally. I currently see over 100% improvement in anxiety (true as of date of publish) in just 8 sessions. Incredible progress from my clients and a statistic backed up by facts not obtainable by a lot of other therapies.

It makes you the expert

hypnotherapyIn many therapies, the role of the therapist is to help solve the problem and the therapist has a range of tools to do this. Solution Focused Hypnotherapy puts the client clearly in the driving seat. We work on the premise that ‘you are the expert of you!’ It is your brain that you are in charge of. The unique solution that you have, however, to solve the issue is sometimes hidden behind the clamour and clutter of everyday life. We help focus you on finding the solution that you think will best help you….and this is much more empowering!

It is a smorgasbord of the best

Solution focused hypnotherapy takes the best of what is out there already. It takes the best of traditional hypnotherapy, of CBT, of Psychotherapy, NLP and mindfulness to make one of the most powerful therapies available today. Solution Focused therapists work hard to understand the different approaches which allows them to make the therapeutic approach bespoke to the client suffering with anxiety.

It is incredibly relaxing

For many people, going to a counsellor or a cognitive behavioural specialist is daunting. Why? Because the expectation is for the client to vocalise their inner demons. Solution Focused Hypnotherapy allows the client to work on hitting targets in a trance like state using metaphor, stories and deeply relaxing hypnotic technique. Such a calm and relaxed way of dealing with anxiety!

It is brain-based

The history of Solution Focused Hypnotherapy is based in science not magic. The system was developed by looking at how your brain naturally works, how anxiety is processed and mimics the pathways used by your brain to course correct. Time is taken to explain the science behind it to every client so that they understand exactly how the process is working. There is no leap of faith required – this is pure neuroscience!

Results happen quickly

Maybe it is because we are solution focused, maybe it is because we mimic the existing functions of the brain or maybe it is because we are so very passionate about what we do. Whatever the reason, change tends to happen incredibly fast and immediately from the first free initial consultation.

Everyone can do it

A lot of people have a predisposed opinion of whether they can or cannot be hypnotised. The level of trance they are talking about is so deep that only 2-3% of the population can achieve it. In Solution Focused Hypnotherapy the deep, relaxing trance is like a vivid daydream – a voyage of the imagination. As everyone has the ability to daydream, we all have the ability to make change using hypnosis.

It regulates sleep

HypnotherapyAs well as the amazing applications to reduce anxiety, Solution Focused Hypnotherapists understand the relationship between levels of sleep and anxious behaviour. One of the great benefits of our approach is that clients often get much better sleeping patterns as a result… and a rejuvenated person is less likely to suffer from anxiety.

The results are long-lasting

The investment you make in Solution Focused Hypnotherapy is an investment in your future. Change happens at such a deep cognitive level that the results can change behaviours, thought processes and patterns of anxieties completely and permanently.

To book your FREE initial consultation in Crawley, click here

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7 Things all Sportsmen and Sportswomen should know about Hypnotherapy

Ever wanted to be the best you can be in sports? From golf stars such as Tiger Woods and Jack Nicklaus to boxers such as Kevin McBride, the top sport performers know the benefits of hypnotherapy in helping them achieve greatness. Here are 7 amazing reasons as to why hypnotherapy can be so beneficial whatever your sports discipline.


1)      It turns your reactions into responses

Sports HypnotherapyWe are not born knowing how to drive a golf ball onto the putting green or sink the black ball into the far right pocket. These are skills that our brain has to learn. The more you throw a ball to a child the better they will become at catching. This is because the brain will start to learn from the random reactions of our bodies to make an intricate formula for success. Suddenly our lightning reactions to catch will be mapped out in the neural pathways of our brains making this skill more of a controlled response – this is a process that hypnotherapy encourages.


2)      It improves confidence

Buried deep in all of the positive language patterns of a hypnotherapist’s repertoire is the basic framework of building confidence. This is because hypnotherapists know that healthy confidence is the building block of most of human success and progress. Professional sports men and women know that all the skill and expertise is useless without self-belief and confidence. Through guided hypnosis, a hypnotherapist will instil a confidence blueprint in the mind of the athlete and with this winning formula they will be miles ahead of their competitors.


3)      It decreases stress

Stress is a ‘low road function.’ When we suffer from stress we spend time in our primitive minds where our only response options are anxiety, depression and anger. These responses are no good in sports that require mental focus, precision and clarity of thought. Hypnotherapy moves our thought patterns into the intellectual mind which eradicates stress and it’s debilitating effects on sports performance.


4)      It creates strong visualisation

Ever heard a footballer discuss how he drove home an impossible penalty shot and say that he ‘just imagined it hitting the back of the net’? Ever been told as a child to just visualise the basketball going through the hoop if you want to score a goal? There is a lot of science behind this. All success starts with a strong visualisation of the outcome and this visualisation has to be hardwired into the complex network of the brain and its neural pathways. Hypnotherapy allows for a direct route into the subconscious meaning these successful outcomes can be compounded at the deepest of levels.


5)      It acts as an inner rehearsal

In whatever discipline, people at the top of their game know the importance of rehearsal. Many boxers mentally rehearse every left hook right before going out into the ring. Studies have shown that in many cognitive processes the brain cannot distinguish between imagination and reality meaning that a mental rehearsal is as useful as a physical one. Hypnotherapy provides the ultimate mental rehearsal. What’s more is that it is bespoke. The client, in communication with the hypnotherapist, is in complete control of every aspect of the mental training.


6)      It helps manage sleep patterns

Sports HypnotherapyWhen we sleep we use a process called REM to change our emotional memories into narrative memories. We empty our metaphorical buckets of stress and give ourselves more spare capacity to deal with the everyday problems of our lives. When we are not doing this efficiently (due to too much stress or the over-burdening of our cognitive functions) our sleep patterns are the first thing to suffer causing us to become emotionally, mentally and physically tired – all potentially catastrophic for a sportsman or woman. Hypnotherapy replicates to important REM patterns which, in turn, helps us to sleep more efficiently giving us bundles of energy for that all important match.


7)      It gets you in the ‘Zone.’

Mental focus is incredibly important to a sports performer. No matter how much skill you have accumulated, if you mind isn’t completely focused during the match then you may as well hand it over to your opponent. Sports Hypnotherapy can help eradicate all other concerns, stresses and worries and promotes absolute focus on the match and, more importantly, on winning it!


To book a FREE initial consultation to look at how hypnotherapy can help you, click here




Conquer that Fear of Flying

A fear of flying is surprisingly common and very challenging. Whilst our intellectual minds may tell us that there is nothing to fear, our primitive minds can go on thinking the worst. Many will point out that we are a lot more unsafe in a car… That a driver of a car only has to take a basic written and skills test whilst a pilot undergoes years of rigorous training and assessment. Many may point out that statistically air travel is the safest form of transportation yet someone in the grip of a phobia will never hear this logic. Whether you are afraid of take-off, landing, mechanical failure, heights, claustrophobia or pilot error the fear of planes can be, for some, over-whelming. Family holidays are cancelled, holidays with friends discarded and a whole world of travel potential dismissed. This can lead to turmoil, frustration, anger or anxiety… Fortunately, many are shocked at how easy phobias like this are to solve in, sometimes, just 3 hour long sessions – just check out this great testimonial from one of my last phobia clients:


Paul’s hypnosis was straightforward and involved no disorientation or feelings of losing control. I still can’t get over how something so life changing could be relaxing and even pleasant! I’m now loving being free from the fear that no longer has any hold on me and feel like I can go anywhere and do anything. Thankyou so much Paul! (David, London)


Book now for a free consultation and start to look forward to that winter break with the family.

Where are the Mind Gyms?

So are we a more healthier nation than we were 70 years ago? The 1950s were certainly full of unhealthy habits and messages. We all cooked our bacon, chips and arteries in lard whilst our Doctor’s took part in advertising the glorious health benefits of smoking 20-a-day. We consumed an unvaried diet of meat and two veg and made few connections between our lifestyles and heart disease. We are now, undoubtedly, more knowledgeable about the nutritional value of foods and exercise. We now have choice – the choice to eat organic, to eat multicultural and to eat a range of healthy alternatives. We now consume more fruit and vegetables than we did 70 years ago and frequently access our gyms for weight-training, spin cycle or Zumba.

But does this make us healthier? Changes in technology allow us to work longer hours and maintain our stress levels 24/7. This has led to a rise in convenience food and ‘on the go eating.’ We have the option of 100 burger bars in a 5 mile radius which in the 1950s were still in their infancy. We have microwaves that can zap food rather than prepare with due consideration. We have the option to binge on food as it is made in its abundance in mega-supermarkets; in the 1950s we simply did not have this facility. Food manufacturers compete with each other to create the unhealthiest but tastiest treats knowing that our sugar addicted nation will always choose the sweeter option. Food production spirals, stress levels mount and obesity rises – even the gyms, offering solutions become corporate and profit driven.  

So are we healthier now or then? Healthier or not, we are certainly more educated on our physical health. If we weren’t, we cannot account for the abundance of healthy alternatives available to us.

So is mental health the next revolution? It would seem that it is very much in the psyche of contemporary society. On the 31st July 2017 the Government announced plans for an investment of 21,000 more mental health workers to be recruited over the next five years. This was a development that can be seen foreshadowed by David Cameron in his bid to give £247 million to place mental health services in every hospital emergency department in February 2016.

It saddened me, in a recent day in clinic, that I had 3 new clients come to see my exhibiting high levels of anxiety and each one told me that had been put on a waiting list by the NHS which could take up to a year. One client was even offered ‘CBT via chatroom’ which seemed to me to rank as one of the more impersonal and box ticking solutions. Hypnotherapy gets such great results in supporting anxiety and depression and, in a way, I am glad it is not part of the NHS’s arsenal as it means we can be there to support people when they need it without the queues or frustration.

So perhaps it is now time for the mind gym. A similar monthly paid membership but instead of treadmills and weight benches there would be therapists and healers. Instead of personal trainers we would have life coaches and instead of a protein shake bar we would have a meditation room.

In the 1950’s a gym to maintain our physical fitness was unheard of. Now we look back more enlightened. Maybe by 2050 we will be similarly enlightened about our mental fitness and look back at this decade as the one which shifted our focus to this important aspect of wellbeing.

A gym for the mind is certainly a dream of mine.

Hypnotherapy and Stress

According to Alexa the Earth has been in existence for over 4.5 billion years and humans have only been part of this journey for around 200,000 years. That’s only a mere 0.004% of the Earth’s history which we have enjoyed. In fact, if all of the Earth’s evolution was compressed into one day then, effectively, we have only been alive for a little under six minutes.

And what have we done with those six minutes? Well… Quite a bit as it happens. We evolved all the way from grunting and brutal cavemen wielding sticks and fighting off wild animals to sophisticated, cappuccino drinking, modern men and women with mobile phones and apps that control our central heating.

Yet all of this zip-wire evolution comes at a price. Whilst science may be advanced, our minds and our bodies still harp back to our Stone Age existence.

The Stone Age man and women would have survived on around 7lbs of sugar a day, now it is more like 100lbs. This rapid change in lifestyle has left our caveman bodies struggling to evolve at the same pace, leading to diabetes and heart disease. Our eyes, designed for seeking out food over huge forests and plains, are now being asked to stretch and focus on bright screens for hours at a time.

But we have also inherited good traits from our Stone Age ancestors. We associate food with communication and the ritual of sitting down to share a meal with friends dates back to the Stone Age when cavemen would sit down with other tribes to form communities and alliances.

Now if you look back at the evolution of stress, you will find it has similar roots in Palaeolithic man. The caveman would have felt a great deal of stress when meeting a wild animal. The primitive part of his brain would kick in and he would either fight it or run away. Similarly when we get a speeding fine drop on our welcome mat, the parts of our brain inherited from early man may make us shout and wave our hands…or avoid it entirely.

When the primitive man looked out of the cave and saw danger, he may have become stressed and hid beneath a fur rug. When we sense danger, such as unavoidable conflict, we sometimes do the same. This solution to the problem has simply been evolved into modern day symptoms of depression.

So stress is a hangover of the fact that we have just evolved far too quickly. Hypnotherapy can help by relaxing the part of the brain that acts as our panic button, allowing the logical part of our brains, born through evolution and inventiveness, to make decisions based upon rationality and logic.

I don’t think cavemen were ready for hypnotherapy which is a shame. Maybe if this practice had been stumbled upon at the same time as our ancestors tamed fire, we may all be just that little bit more zen.

Obesity, Stress and Central Heating

It is 9pm at night and I am racing through Youtube typing in different combinations of ‘Weight Loss and neuroscience’… ‘Obesity and the Brain…’ ‘Hypnotherapy and losing weight…’ It isn’t working and I am tired.

But about a week ago I watched an extraordinary video on this topic. A lecture from, if I recall correctly, Edinburgh University that was just fascinating and headlined some of the surprising reasons that modern science has for our obesity crisis in the UK. They were so unbelievably bonkers but, actually fundamentally logical conclusions that I wanted to consider them in this blog. Problem is, I can’t find the video so starting to wonder if I dreamed hearing it. If not, please someone send me the link so that I can credit this University lecturer for a profoundly insightful hour’s viewing.

It was stated that one of the reasons being considered for our country’s rising obesity stats was actually central heating! The professor stated that, as we have become more educated on food, our consumption of fats, sugars and bulky carbs has actually decreased over the years. In fact, the only food group which has seen a rise in consumption in the last 20 years is fruit and veg. So why, as a nation, are we suffering from obesity?

So the theory under the microscope is Central Heating! When we eat, our bodies use the food to fuel our daily movements. If we look at how the body distributes energy then we would find that 10% of the energy produced is used to digest food whilst only 30% is used in daily activity. That leaves 60% which the body uses to… regulate temperature. It seems logical, right? The temperature of our environment changes so rapidly that this must require a huge volume of calories to maintain status quo. In the age of efficient central heating, smart heating and regulated heating our bodies no longer have to work as hard on this process. The result? We don’t burn off the excess and store it as fat!

Could it be that simple? Turn the heat down and we will get thin? I wish I could find that video and re-watch…

Or could it be that stress is more powerful in weight gain than central heating… Again, another logical argument. When we were cavemen / women we were constantly stressed. We, kind of, had to be to ward off wild animals, survive harsh environments and hunt and gather food. And in times of high stress, what do our bodies do? Well, they are so smart that they would prioritise our spare energy. If we had to run away from a grizzly bear our body would redirect all energy towards flight or fight and certainly would not waste energy, at that moment, on digesting food. As we have evolved from primitive man our bodies perform in largely the same way. If we are constantly stressed then our bodies may react by consistently slowing down digestion and, hence, putting on weight. Or, indeed, would our bodies store food as fat so that we had enough reserve energy to ward off the threat of the grizzly bear or, in a more modern analogy, the shoulder-high in-tray of jobs to do at work.

As much as I like the central heating theory, the caveman analogy puts the control of our weight back in our own hands. That by de-stressing we are hindering the evolutionary processes that would cause us to gain weight. I am glad to be practising hypnotherapy, therefore. Having seen my clients lose weight through this process I know that it can be so supportive in this area. To de-stress and lose weight in one treatment is a double bubble. It takes a few weeks but the impact is demonstrable…

If all else fails – turn the heat down…

Thank you to whoever it was for a fine lecture

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